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How to Tell if Your Partner Really Loves You

Finding true love is often a matter of luck. If you believe you’ve found “the one” and are looking for signs to confirm his love, you’re in the right place. Read on to discover if these signs are present in your relationship.

He Knows You Better Than You

We often take it at face value. Knowing someone better than they know themselves doesn’t mean learning their likes, dislikes, and favorite colors. It means taking a closer look at their actions and understanding the patterns behind why they do what they do.

If you are with the right person, rest assured they will take the pain of understanding the motivations and reasons behind your actions and contribute to your overall growth and wellness.

Let’s see how it works in real life.

Suppose you have a habit of getting into comparison, and you unknowingly jump into the comparative analysis that further sabotages your state of mind. When you enter into a relationship with the right person, it will take them only a short time to identify this pattern. And once they do, the ideal course of action for them is to support you through this limitation.

If you’re hurting your mental peace by comparing yourself with your ex, they’ll not shy away from giving you the assurance that you need and help you find coping strategies to deal with it maturely. Also, if you hurt them in the process by drawing their comparison with others, they would understand it and help you find a different perspective altogether.

He Keeps Respect Above Love

Prioritizing a partner’s respect is a precondition to having a healthy and nurturing relationship. If your partner respects you in ways that make you feel special, he is a keeper. There are instances where we see love overshadow respect for the other person. Sometimes, in ways where there is an ego-play under the pretense of love. This is where it becomes important to understand how the other person sees us.

If he respects your opinions, your decisions, your likes, preferences, and dislikes—he is qualifying to be a partner who’d appreciate you for who you are even through the rough patch of your relationship. Relationships that stood the test of time are those that keep respect above love.

He is an Open Communicator

To know if a person is genuinely invested in you, see if he’s having open and honest conversations. We all have reservations where we like to keep particular talks or subjects to ourselves. It could be anything from opening up about your fears to talking about matters that are too sensitive or personal to you. When you find a genuine effort from their side to discuss almost anything and everything, there’s no harm in assuming that they really value you and don’t want to leave any room for confusion or second thoughts.

When your partner is genuinely in love with you, you’ll often find him communicating his fears, concerns, and future plans to you. He won’t shy away from being vulnerable in his talk and would lend his ear to you in an equal proportion. Not to miss—active listening would be a thing. Also, he’ll do all it takes to carry out effective communication.

He Walks an Extra Mile for You

Do you find him putting in extra effort for you? We often take such gestures for granted but don’t realize that we only make adjustments for those who matter. And if your partner is among them who doesn’t mind walking an extra mile for you, consider yourself lucky. You can find hints of care in actions like adjusting his plan to accommodate your needs, cooking your favorite meal to make you feel special, sharing the household chores so he can share your burden, attending the events or movies that you enjoy, and so on and so forth.

When he exhibits these signs and doesn’t step back from expressing his love for you, it is a true indication that he loves you and wants you in his life. Also, it’s a significant love language to show that he cares for your happiness.

He Respects Your Individuality

Even if your partner is head-over-heels about you but doesn’t celebrate your individuality, you have a reason to give second thoughts. Respecting a partner’s individuality is imperative if you are looking to create a strong relationship foundation. It shows up in his actions, where he respects your qualities, opinions, and decisions. Additionally, he encourages you to follow your passion and never second-guess your instincts. It is also a confirmation from his side that he is far from being controlling and is standing in your support, no matter what. It is among an integral trait that, if you find in your mate, he is worth keeping for a lifetime.  

He Supports You in Every Situation

It isn’t something that we don’t already want to see in our partners. Remaining supportive of your goals and aspirations to the point where you feel strengthened is almost everyone’s wish who has ever walked on earth. And to find it in your partner is a matter of pride and happiness at once. If your partner stands in your support, whether it is household matters or your office concerns, he is speaking the language of love. Love is often tested in times of difficulty, and a partner should be there for you to offer you encouragement and practical help. If your partner truly loves you, he will always respect your decisions and ensure that you don’t get suppressed by negative people or circumstances.

He is Willing to Compromise

An integral trait to find in our partner is his willingness to compromise. When we see in his actions that he’s being flexible in his approach, it’s a prominent sign that he is rooted in you.

Perfection is an illusion, and if you think your relationship will only see rosy sequences of some romantic Hollywood movie, you are chasing rainbows. There has never been and never will be, a relationship without disagreements or misalignments. The goal is to handle these issues and disputes with maturity.

Also, if your partner has a deeper understanding and never hesitates to compromise when necessary, hold him tight.

He Plans His Future With You

When your partner shows a keen interest in discussing his future with you, it’s a sign that he’s already envisioning a life with you. Do you often find yourselves talking about the future or creating a bucket list of things you aspire to check off together? If yes, consider it a big green flag and know your partner is invested in you.

Also, it is important to note how proactively he is working towards the dreams and goals that you have discussed. Again, all talk and no work would be a big put-off where you must give second thoughts. It isn’t difficult to figure out if they are using these talks as fillers or demonstrating their love and commitment through their words.

He Makes You a Priority

Being a priority of your partner isn’t just about the feel factor; it’s a prerequisite of a healthy relationship. Are they available whenever you need them? Are they making adjustments in their plan to accommodate yours? If the answer is yes, it shows you matter to them. When you prioritize a person in your life, it is reflected in their commitment and devotion. It doesn’t necessarily have to be shown through grand gestures; in fact, it often appears in small, everyday actions.

Say you cancel a friend’s meeting to spend quality time with your partner. Or, you stay alert about their doctor’s appointment even if it means canceling your gym session. If you notice your partner showing their care through actions like these, consider yourself lucky and hang on to your partner till eternity.

He is Consistent

If your partner shows consistency in everything he does, never leave him. Being consistent is a prominent sign that cannot be ignored when it comes to choosing the right partner. How consistent a person is in his endeavors shows his dedication and devotion to you. Say, if he greets you with a good morning text, and there has never been a day when you didn’t receive the text, it shows that you matter to him and he cares enough to send you the first-morning text.

On the contrary, if you’ve been with a partner who, on some days, showers you with undivided attention and appreciation but remains lost for the other half month, would you be able to place your trust in him?

Conclusion

Love isn’t about making grand gestures and following the illusion of romanticizing life. Love is about sticking together and respecting each other’s individuality, being their biggest supporter. If your partner demonstrates the above signs and love language, know that you’ve been blessed  in life. Also, it is something that naturally progresses when we are deeply in love with someone. When you recognize these signs in your partner, it is bound to give you a sense of security and happiness. So, feel confident about your love, and know that it will endure every test of time when your partner is ideal in his ways and loves you beyond measure.

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